I love Gilmore Girls, but I also hate Gilmore Girls. All these years of watching the show has given me a skewed view of what a mother/daughter relationship would be like. I don't know why I didn't view the Gilmores as fiction. Although, now that I really think about, I'm not sure whether my favorite girls are actually fiction or victims of circumstance. I mean, I guess if I had a girl at 16, refused to marry the father, moved out of my parents' house to a different town where I knew no one, and my only company was my daughter for the first 15 years of her life, then maybe I could be that tight with my kid. But that is not my life. And it's kind of an unrealistic and unique situation.
I have a girl that came to live in our house at age 12. I have known her since she was 9. We used to be a lot "tighter" than we are now, but that all changed when I had to start playing "Mom". She doesn't confide in me anymore, but does have some friends that I trust that she does release to. Thank God for friends. I do wish one of them could be me but it seems that is years away from us at this point. But that's ok - I have a good relationship with my Mom and I do tell her everything now, something that I never felt like I could've done as a teen. I know now that I could have (and should have) told her what was going on in my life. It might have been a little painful and awkard at the time, but it also might have prevented me from making some of the major mistakes that I made.
That is another huge difference between me and Lorelai. Of course, there is a little strain in my relationship with my parents, but not like their's. I'm sure everyone has strain in their familial relations but I think very few are as flawed, strained, and obligated as the Gilmores (orthe Stiles or the Huntzbergers). Maybe the families I see aren't like that because most families I know are not as filthy, obscenely rich as the families in Hartford. Maybe the strain and obligation comes with the money. If so, I think I'll stay poor.
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